PostNatal Ponderings…

Postpartum is such an interesting and complex time - where we have to, in many ways, deeply depend on others around us in order to be well. There are other times in life where this is true, too - when we are babies/children, when illness/disease hits and into our elder years too. These are deeply vulnerable times in our human lives. Without the proper care and resonance, it can feel so destabilizing. 

Some of the most critical questions that arise through these experiences, even subconsciously, are: Will our needs be tended to? Will we be loved? Witnessed? Accepted without judgment? How does it feel when we can't tend to our needs on our own? How does it feel when we are held in our needs and supported? What does it feel like to be seen, loved, accepted? How does it feel when we aren't? This is mirrored in our children, too. Our children have these same questions and are in a deeply vulnerable place as children. Will my needs be tended to? Will I be loved, witnessed, accepted? How does it feel in my body when my needs aren't tended to? How does it feel when they are tended to?"